Relationship Lessons
I asked the Instagram community what relationship lessons they’ve learned from previous relationships that they hope to not repeat again. I wanted to compile them here so that anyone who needs, may have long term access to them.
“Don’t settle and listen to your body for signs that this person may not be the one.”
“Always putting myself last.”
“If someone tells you they don’t deserve you or that you’re too good for them, listen to them.”
“You can’t heal or fix them. They need to be an active participant in their own well-being.”
“When they tell you they are not good enough for you, or you could do better, believe them!”
“Putting up emotional walls isn’t beneficial. Vulnerability with your partner is so so important.”
“People working toward mental health only, please!”
“Don’t be with someone who makes you feel less than. Do. Not. Make. Yourself. Smaller — in any way.”
“Don’t be with someone who literally cannot/does not apologize.”
“Don’t lose yourself in order to fit their narrative of what they want you to be. You end up the loser in the situation. Be authentic and if they don’t like it, see ya.”
Here are some that were submitted to me personally/sourced from the original Reddit thread that I found this question from:
“What you put up with, you end up with.”
“Stop being in a relationship to save someone, that shit won't work and will bite you in the ass.”
“Never make someone your everything because if you lose them, you're left with nothing. You need other things to make yourself happy and live a fullfilling life. You need friends, hobbies, goals, etc.”
“Compatibility is different from attraction, and even love. Make sure your individual ideas of an ideal life can be aligned.”
“Make sure you're in love with the ACTUAL person, not your idealized version of them that exists only in your head.”
“It's ok to lose a relationship.”
“Don't stay out of loyalty, obligation, or guilt. Stay because you genuinely want to.”
“If everything feels like a favor or compromise, it's not going to last.”
“Put realistic timelines on stuff. Communicate what you want or need, and if stuff doesn't change in 6 months... then you know its going to be that way forever.”
“Look for someone that's kind, generous and patient. Not to you, or their family, but to others around them. Watch how they treat strangers...aka the waitress etc That's who they really are.”
“Look for someone that has their own goals. They should be capable of being happy in their own pursuits. Do they love their job? Do they have hobbies that they really enjoy? Then they are with you, because they want to be with you... not because you entertain them.”
