Hey!

Welcome to the last week of our challenge. I hope that you’ve enjoyed your time with me — I want this space to be both a place to share my work and a place to share the things I’ve learned, so if you did this little challenge, I’m so happy.

It was hard to pick which tip I wanted to share for the fourth week, but I think this one is super important. Other than dedicating an entire post to how you’re probably dehydrated and to drink more water. HA.

Anyway, here’s the topic for the fourth week!

As humans we’re inherently social creatures, and designed to live with one another instead of distanced like we find ourselves now. With the pandemic being super isolating for a lot of us, I know that we’re all missing that social connection that we so desperately crave. Despite our desire to be social creatures, it can be super easy for us to fall into traps of comparison and jealousy, especially when our social interactions are primarily happening online.

For myself, I do at least a monthly social media audit (I should probably do more real life audits too) where I go through everyone I follow and make sure they’re feeding my soul or brain before I keep them.

This same concept can be applied to the humans in your waking, three dimensional life. Have a look at your friends, and family. Who is serving your brain and soul? Who is taking away from it? This kind of evaluation ensures that we surround ourselves with the kind of people we both want and need in our lives.

Assignment: A Social (Media) Audit

1. Go through all the people you follow on both Facebook and Instagram and have a look at their feed. How does it make you feel? What kind of messaging are they promoting? Do you walk away from their page feeling refreshed, nourished or inspired? Or do you walk away from their page feeling shitty, inadequate and low?

2. Unfollow all the people that bring your vibration down. Whether energetically, mentally or physically. Remember: there are a myriad of social media pages that are promoting the messaging you want to surround yourself with, you just have to find them.

If you’re like me, and want to support people but have a hard time not comparing yourself to them, muting them is a great option. If we’re being totally honest… most of the photographers I know and love are muted. When I’m in a low place, I find myself comparing to their perceived level of success, and all the areas I’m not living up to. It’s about me, not them.

These regular audits are not only good for our mental health and a sense of “cleaning” if you will, but it’s also a good way to have a look at our values, and how they’ve changed over the years. What kind of humans and companies do you want to support? In an age where your attention is just as valuable as your dollar, it’s even more imperative that we inject more heart into the people we chose to interact with online.

And that concludes the challenge! I hope that you return to this little morsels of advice as needed — as one of many sounding boards to help you re-orient within your body and mind. Remember the relationship that will last longest in your life is the one you have with yourself, so it needs to be nurtured the same way you nature both romantic and platonic relationships.

I love you, and I see you. Till next time.